How much power do you give to others? Be it your significant other, friends, co-workers, boss, or even your dog (disclosure: I don’t own a dog). I’m talking about emotional power, emotional well being. How quickly can a boss ruin a day by demanding you finish a certain project before the weekend on a Friday afternoon? How often have you been pulled into feelings of anger, sadness, or frustration because of something someone else did? I know it has happened to me way too often.
Grounding
Kori Leigh definitely preaches this a lot and that is grounding yourself. We all have the power to overcome our emotional hurdles. We don’t need others to do it for us. We can’t rely on others to do it for us. Everyone has their own shit to deal with and you can’t expect them to clean up your doo doo all the time. Of course there are the people that are there every time you need them and they are important (and awesome). But what about the times when they are busy or just happened to be not around? It sucks balls to be rolling around in your own anxiety with no way out.
Of course being able to ground yourself isn’t easy. Heck, it is scary, suddenly we are taking about taking responsibility for your own state. For your own feelings. What a revolutionary idea! Suddenly you can’t blame others for how you feel. But you can feel okay to be feeling a certain thing. After all, your body put you there, why not sit with it and see what it is trying to tell you? In fact you might find that when you start to listen to your body, you will automatically ground yourself anyways and you’ll start feeling better. Your body just needed a little attention.
We also need to find things/activities/thoughts around us that ground us. Everyone has their own way of dealing with it, but lets be more conscious about what brings us back to Earth. For example, when a shit storm hits at work, I will get stressed, anxious and worked up. My adrenaline and cortisol is ramped up and ready for a royal rumble or to flee like a little child. And you all know that this is horrible for the body. So sometimes, I will go out for a walk around the block just to re-ground myself. Or I will leave the office, go sit by myself and just calm myself back down. This takes maybe 15 minutes. I leave the office, re-ground and re-find myself before heading back. I feel much better afterwards.
Give it a try the next time you’re hit with an emotional shit storm. Let me know if it works for you.